Wax Play Guide for Beginners
Wax Play is the same thing as Candle Play and involves dripping wax onto a person’s body. This is usually done as part of BDSM and is a great way for people who are just starting out to move further into pain play.
Types of Sex Candles to Use
It’s best to use beeswax or soy candles because they’re made with more natural ingredients so they’re less likely to cause skin irritations. Paraffin candles shouldn’t be used because they can irritate the skin due to the chemicals in them and cause rashes or other allergic reactions. It’s also best to use sex candles that aren’t scented or colored with dye because this could also cause allergic reactions.
Safety During Wax Play
The first thing you need to do is make sure you’re using beeswax or soy candles to cut down on the chances of your partner having an allergic reaction. Have your partner lie down and do a small test patch so you can see what their pain tolerance is like. Once you know it’s something they can take then you can move onto playing with it for real. The torso is the best area to apply the wax since there’s more area to work with and you won’t have to worry about it dripping and making a mess like you would on a small area like the arm. It’s a good idea to shave the area if there is any hair, so the wax doesn’t stick to it and don’t put any wax on broken skin. You should also avoid areas where the skin is thin or sensitive like the inside of arms, nipples and the face. Wax will get hotter over time so during the play, check to see if it isn’t getting to be too much for the submissive. When pouring the wax hold the candle from a fair distance because wax will be cooler the farther it has to fall. If you pour it too close to the body, it could burn the submissive.
Wax Play Session
A natural reaction is to move away from pain so it might be a good idea to restrain the submissive before starting. You want them to be relaxed so use scarves if they’re more comfortable with that or handcuffs if they think they can handle it.
Stand over them and drop a small wax onto them and watch their reaction. If they seem to be able to tolerate the pain and don’t want to stop then keep going, this time with a bigger drop of wax. You don’t want to push them too far or cause any damage so stick to four or five drops before stopping. You can prolong play time by doing activities in between drops of wax, like using other toys or touching their genitals to keep them turned on.
It’s best to wait until the wax has cooled before removing it. Use something with a blunt edge and gently scrape up with a lifting motion at the edges of the wax until it starts to break off. A good item to use would be one of those plastic blade free razors that look like a spatula women use to take off hair removal cream or a plastic knife. To make wax removal easier you can massage lotion onto the area the wax will be poured on before starting so it won’t stick to the skin as much. You could also use a damp cloth to dab around the edges of the wax before you start scraping it off.
Enjoy your wax play – let the pain and pleasure begin!